The Power of Praying with Your Spouse

God’s heart is for marriage reconciliation and union. According to 2 Corinthians 5:18, He has reconciled us to Himself through Christ Jesus and given us a reconciliation ministry. Praying with your spouse is a powerful way to restore and revive your marriage. Prayer closes gaps between you and your spouse so you stay unified physically and spiritually.


Satan’s Strategy to Destroy Marriages

Satan’s strategy to destroy marriages is through division. He hates couples dedicated to serving the Church and furthering God’s kingdom. Matthew 12:25 says, “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand.” In times of division, you must seek redemption and choose to build a bridge of reconciliation. Do not wait until there is a void between you and your spouse to seek reconciliation. Start mending the divide when it becomes a crack so it does not expand to a chasm. Your marriage is worth fighting for!


The Power of Praying with Your Spouse

When you pray, you release the Holy Spirit’s supernatural power in your marriage. Praying with your spouse creates a bond of understanding. You hear your spouse’s intimate thoughts and process various emotions together. Prayer changes your perspective about your spouse and the conflict in your relationship. You recognize that your spouse is not the enemy, experience revival in the dead parts of your relationship, and fight against isolation from each other and Christ.

A Christ-centered marriage should reflect the opposite characteristics of what we see in the world. When other marriages experience disagreement, conflict, and divorce, Christ-centered marriages should be full of love, joy, peace, unity, and prosperity. In times of tension, you must choose reconciliation with your spouse. When most people walk away from a marriage, a godly couple decides to fight in prayer for unity.


4 Steps to Marriage Reconciliation

Prayer is the key to marriage reconciliation. Since you and your spouse will let each other down daily, you must seek reconciliation regularly. A marriage that does not get attention and intention daily will atrophy eventually. However, there are some steps you must take to posture your heart before praying with your spouse.


1. Have a heart of humility.

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”—Philippians 2:3-4

Stop fighting to be understood and start fighting to understand. You may never fully agree, but you can seek to understand fully. 


2. Take responsibility.

“Then the man said, ‘The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.’”—Genesis 3:12

Marriage reconciliation demands we take ownership of our actions and seek unity. Every couple since the fall of Adam and Eve has played the blame game. Stop playing the blame game with your spouse and repent.


3. Give and receive forgiveness continually.

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”—Ephesians 4:32

Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a choice. There can be forgiveness without reconciliation, but there can be no reconciliation without forgiveness.


4. Extend much grace and mercy.

“Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in a fashion as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.”—Philippians 2:5-8

Reconciliation means being like Jesus. We must sacrifice our selfish desires and put the needs of our spouse above our own. But the pain of the crucifixion is worth the joy of the resurrection.


A woman holding a mans hand on a bed.
Praying with your spouse brings unity


4 Things to Pray with Your Spouse Every Day

Most Christian couples never really pray together, but prayer is part of God’s purpose for marriage. Praying with your spouse helps you grow to be more like Jesus. You cannot continue to argue with, hate, or be estranged from the one you are praying for. Pray together every single day with your spouse, following this format:

  • Thank God for your spouse.

  • Repent of anything you’ve done to mistreat your spouse.

  • Ask God’s blessing over your house and marriage.

  • Ask God to guard your spouse and marriage from the wicked one.



God’s desire is for couples to experience marriage reconciliation through prayer. Fostering a marriage built on biblical principles takes time, intentionality, and humility, but it is not impossible. Start praying with your spouse using our 21 days of prayer challenge, and watch how intentional prayer changes your marriage!


To receive 21 days of prayer prompts for your spouse…

  • Husbands text “Husband” to 68618 

  • Wives text “Wife” to 68618