Victim or Victor | How to Embrace a Conqueror Mentality

No more victim mentality, no more blaming others, and no more excuses. It is time to embrace the truth that you are more than a conqueror in Christ (Romans 8:37). Ready to move from out of a victim mindset into a victor mindset? Discover how to embrace a conqueror mentality. Jesus wants to take your pain and suffering and use it for good.

Are you ready to surrender it to Him?

More Than a Conqueror in Christ Mentality | Romans 8:35-37 

  • “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written: ‘For Your sake we are killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.’ Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.”

Trials, loss, persecution, and shame can make us feel far from God, unloved, lonely, and defeated. The enemy uses these things to pull us into a victim mindset. However, what did the Apostle Paul write? Even in the midst of suffering, loss, trials, and tribulation, we are more than conquerors. 

Did you catch that?

  • Even when we feel like victims, we are considered victors. This fact alone should move us into embracing a conqueror mentality. 

One Step at a Time Toward Victory

Jesus doesn’t always tell us where to walk in the midst of a painful circumstance and reveal our final destination. Instead, He often says, “Walk.” When we take one step of faith toward our breakthrough—toward victory—God will show us the next, then the next, and so on. 

Embracing a conqueror mentality starts by taking one step and trusting God has a path to heal past hurts and suffering

Psalm 119:105 says…

  • “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” 

The word “lamp” in this passage is the Hebrew word ner. It refers to a small clay lantern with a single wick. The lamp of God’s Word doesn’t illuminate the entire path and every detail from beginning to end, but rather a step or two at a time. These few illuminated steps allow you to focus on how God is moving in the present rather than the entire journey. It creates opportunities for you to trust Him more. And when you trust, you start to operate out of a conqueror mentality. 

God’s Word Provides Direction in Dark Places

  • “And so we have the prophetic word confirmed, which you do well to heed as a light that shines in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts…”—2 Peter 1:19

God doesn’t give us a map. Instead, He gives us a compass. He is in control, but He doesn’t always take control. We take a step, and our path becomes clear little by little.

Woman standing on stage with a screen that says scars behind her

When we start to navigate suffering and loss, we will have scars. Through the trusting and navigating process, God will take us beyond merely surviving and move into a conqueror mentality.

  • “… I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”—John 10:10
  • “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”—Ephesians 3:20-21

God doesn’t want you to survive or even hope for the “next great thing.” He wants you to find abundant life and to thrive right where you are through trusting Him and embracing a conqueror mentality and your identity in Christ!  

Perhaps you’ve gone through circumstances and wonder how God could ever redeem them. Yes, there was hurt, but you are still here. This is proof that your purpose is still set before you.  

  • “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”—Romans 8:28

3 Ways to Start Navigating Suffering and Loss

  • Accept the “now.”

No one comes out of suffering and loss without scars. It is time to accept them.

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”—Philippians 4:6-7

  • Own your story.

Don’t pretend your pain didn’t happen. Owning your story allows you to shut the door on shame and guilt.

“In You, O Lord, I put my trust; let me never be ashamed; deliver me in Your righteousness.”—Psalm 31:1

  • Embrace the journey.

Take control of the narrative of your life, surrendering it to God. You may not have intended to go through what you have, but you did end up where God intended you to be.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”—Proverbs 3:5-6


  • Don’t spend too much time on the villains in your story. They’ve already stolen too much in your life.
  • Tell the story of the conflict because that’s what develops your character.
  • Talk about your hero—Jesus. Who pulls you out of the mud and mire and sets your feet on a rock (Psalm 40:2)? Jesus. Use your story to tell people about Him.  
  • Share your growth. Tell others about how your story changed over time. Give a “before and after” testimony of God’s goodness, giving Him the glory and releasing good to others.

Check out this powerful message about how to navigate a world of suffering and loss. You are more than a survivor. Your story is not over yet. You are more than a conqueror in Christ so embrace a conqueror mentality.