Nothing shapes a woman’s character like the journey of motherhood. A godly mother is a woman who allows God to sanctify, purify, love, redeem, and shape her in life’s circumstances.
- The journey of motherhood—becoming a godly mother—doesn’t start when you give birth or adopt a child. It begins with knowing your identity in Jesus.
The enemy has uniquely designed arrows for mothers. They are darts of comparison, worry, criticism, weariness.
7 Characteristics of a Godly Mother
1. A Godly Mother Seeks to Stay Grounded in Her Identity
You’ve been through many life-changing treks: a journey of faith, growing from a girl to a woman, and the adventure of becoming a mother. You have received many messages about who you are in your lifetime. But no banner placed over your head speaks truth like the banner of the Lord.
When the world says you are only a mom, wife, daughter, sister, or gives you a certain job title, it is your opportunity to step into who God says you are.
- Psalm 60:4-5 says, “You have given a banner to those who fear You, that it may be displayed because of the truth. That Your beloved may be delivered, save with Your right hand, and hear me.”
- James 2:23 says, “And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, ‘Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.’ And he was called the friend of God.”
- John 14:17-18 says, “… the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you.”
Pause for a moment and reflect on who God says you are. You are strong, beloved, delivered, counted as righteous, and not alone on this journey of motherhood.
2. A Godly Mother Leans on God’s Word
As a godly mother, you are steadfast in your faith and lean on God’s word. This equips you to direct your children to Jesus and the Word rather than taking the bait from the enemy who says you should have all the answers. This characteristic also helps you prepare your feet with peace and lead by example when your children are anything but peaceful.
- Psalm 26:12 says, “My foot stands in an even place; in the congregations I will bless the Lord.”
- Ephesians 6:14-15 says, “Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace…”
- Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You.”
As a mom, you know every day is filled with new challenges and new mercies. The enemy wants to keep you from leaning on God’s Word during the challenges.
Know where your help comes from (Psalm 121:2-4) and give thanks.
3. A Godly Mother Let’s Go of Perfection and Leans on Jesus’ Perfect Work
As a mom, you experience frustrations and disappointments. You make mistakes. But rather than allowing those moments to define you or push you towards insecurity and comparisons, you humbly come before God and ask Him for His strength.
- Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
- Second Corinthians 19:9 says, “And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
- Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”
As a godly mother, you trust that God won’t waste a moment. You trust in His redeeming love rather than your efforts of perfection. When you make a mistake, you don’t let perfectionism rob you of your joy or distract you from what you are called to do.
Lean on Jesus’ saving grace today.
4. A Godly Mother Knows She Needs Community
You’ve heard it said, “It takes a village to raise a child.” There is truth in this statement. Moms need community. And as a godly mother, you know the importance of doing life with others. It is in community you find encouragement, prayer, and people who will speak truth to you during the journey of motherhood.
- Proverbs 28:13 says, “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”
- Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”
- First John 1:7 says, “But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.”
As a mom, you need authentic connections where you can confess your struggles and be held accountable.
Welcome truth because those doing life with you have a heart for you and your family.
5. A Godly Mother Speaks Truth
As a godly mother, you know your words have power. They have the power to build up or tear down. As a godly mother, you choose your words wisely and use them to build others up, especially your friends and family.
- Proverbs 31:26 says, “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.”
- Colossians 3:16-17 says, “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.”
- Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”
The enemy wants to twist moms' words and turn them into complaining, gossip, or criticism. Godly mothers know to be aware of this.
Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words to speak to others.
6. A Godly Mother Encourages Children to Seek Jesus
The older your children get, the more you run them to and from soccer practice, guitar lessons, and after-school clubs. As a godly mother, you can see how these activities fill their days and minds. Yet, you direct their attention to Jesus through it all. You show them their identities aren’t in what they do but who they are in Christ.
- Psalm 127:3-4 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrow in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth.”
- Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
- Proverbs 29:17 says, “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul.”
Godly mothers seize moments in the car to talk about where Jesus shows up in your child’s busy day. You use life as an object lesson to point your kids to Jesus.
7. A Godly Mother Loves the Lord Above All Else
This seems obvious, but what does this look like practically? As a godly mother, you will be asked to do many things and serve in many ways. While service is critical to your spiritual growth, you must always seek the Lord first. Every time you say “yes” to one thing, you say “no” to something else. As a godly mother, there will be times you have to say “no” to one thing so you can say “yes” to God.
- Matthew 6:33 says, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”
- Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
- Psalm 27:11 says, “Teach me Your way, O Lord, and lead me in a smooth path, because of my enemies.”
Remember, Jesus said that the greatest commandment is “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37). Allow Him to rule in your heart. He will bring peace about the “yeses” you give (Colossians 3:15).
How the Enemy Attacks Godly Mothers
The enemy thrives on hooking you into the lie that criticism will grow your children. Criticism is a product of fear, but God didn’t give you a spirit of fear. He actually gives you the power to break it off. The enemy doesn’t want you to know you have authority in Christ to surrender and resist the lie. This causes Satan to flee.
A major move of the enemy is to overextend you. If Satan can get you feeling like you need to do more, he’s got you held down by a full schedule. Moving through the journey of motherhood is similar to how you start. You rest in your identity in Christ, not in what you do. He will direct your path. Remember, His burden is light.
Satan lies and tells you how parenting, operating in your call, and serving should look. He fails to mention that God has made you for a unique purpose. You are part of the Body of Christ, and your gifting and service won’t look the same as someone else’s. There is freedom in who God has called you to be.
Standing in your identity in Christ is essential in your motherhood journey. When you know who you belong to, you will…
- Be able to identify lies from the enemy
- Be wise and speak truth
- Set the Lord to rule in your heart
Characteristics of a godly mother are shaped through experiences and over time. God doesn’t expect perfection. He invites you to join Him on the journey. And as a result, He will bring about who you were meant to be through the process of sanctification. He will help you to raise up the next generation of Christ-followers.
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