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Biblical Singleness: How to Be Joyful in Single Life

Living a single life can be challenging to navigate at times. We can grow impatient or question God’s plan when our life expectations are unmet. It is normal to feel lonely at times and wrestle with finding contentment. 

A common cliché you may have heard in church is that “singleness is a gift.” That’s because there are many mentions of singleness in the Bible. The idea comes from 1 Corinthians 7, in which Paul discusses biblical singleness.

  • “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am…”—1 Corinthians 7:8
  • “But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.”—1 Corinthians 7:32

 

In these verses, Paul encourages single believers to remain single as he is. He lays out the advantages of biblical singleness, including having a heart that is entirely focused and dedicated to God’s work. However, this does not mean that singleness is the ideal relational status. He wants to help single believers make the most of their time on earth while trusting God with the desires of their hearts (Psalm 37:3-7).

3 Biblical Ways to Be Joyful in Singleness

God can do mighty things in our hearts and lives if we allow him to. If we lean into Him, pursue the kingdom, and seek a godly community, we can begin living the joyful life God intended, even in singleness. 

Here are three ways to experience joy as you embrace biblical singleness:

1 ) Lean into God

When you feel lonely, what is it that you run to? Many things in this world offer to fill the void of loneliness. Ultimately, they will always leave us lacking and wanting more. Even marriage does not guarantee contentment or a cure for loneliness. God is the only one who can offer true contentment.

When lies about God’s goodness or His plans for us fill our minds, we need to be solid and unwavering on the truth of God’s Word so that we do not allow the lies of the enemy to shape our thoughts and influence our choices. When we run to God and let Him embrace us in His love, He will quiet our spirit and remind us of who He is.  

God is close to the brokenhearted. He cares about the desires of your heart. 

When we are overwhelmed by questions like “Why me?” and start to look around at what other people have, we can begin to make comparisons. This allows feelings of self-pity and ungratefulness to creep in. Instead of focusing on what we do not have, we can embrace who God is, knowing that He is sovereign over all things and that we can trust His promises.

Will you take him at His word and trust Him? Put your life in His hands, and remember His character. He is faithful and good. Let these verses about singleness in the Bible give you truth and hope to cling to in biblical singleness:

  • “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”—Jeremiah 29:11
  • “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.”—Psalm 18:30
  • “He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things?”—Romans 8:32
  • “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!”—Matthew 7:11
  • “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.”—Psalm 37:4

 

To be joyful in singleness, we must do more than know these biblical truths in our minds. We must believe them and allow that truth to enter our hearts.

2 ) Pursue the Kingdom

Paul explained to believers that singleness can have many advantages. He speaks of the unmarried person being free to be concerned with how they can please the Lord.

In 1 Corinthians 7:32-33, he says, “He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.”

The single man or woman can be devoted to the Lord, and their interests will not be divided. When we get married and have children, much of our attention, resources, time, and responsibilities go toward them. 

Having a family is a beautiful blessing, but when you are in a season of singleness, it gives you the freedom to do more for the kingdom of God.

  • You can serve in your church.
  • You can travel to unreached nations.
  • You can care for friends and family members.
  • You can do many other things that will advance the Gospel.

 

Ask God, “What can I do with the time and resources you have blessed me with?” If you say “Yes” to following God in biblical singleness and have a heart to honor Him, He will do more through you than you could do on your own.

Two women hugging at the Abundant Life singles barbeque event.

3 ) Seek Biblical Community

Godly community is essential to any believer’s walk with Christ, whether single or married. We need more than surface-level, superficial relationships. Biblical community offers a safe place to be vulnerable, confess our struggles, and receive accountability and encouragement from other believers. 

Isolation makes us vulnerable to the enemy. When we are alone, anxious thoughts and lies can consume our minds, making it hard to discern the truth. We need to surround ourselves with a godly community and ask God to bring people into our lives that we can trust and give permission to speak truth into our circumstances. 

Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” We need people to do life with. We need people running with us toward the same goal Paul mentions in Philippians 3:14: “I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

Takeaway

Knowing God’s character and pursuing the kingdom with a community of people who love and strengthen you makes all the difference as you navigate biblical singleness. Many resources can help you in this pursuit. Abundant Life has community groups and a thriving singles ministry to help you engage with others and grow spiritually. 

If you feel unseen or question if you are loved, remember that we serve Jehovah El Roi, the God who sees you. He knows you, loves you, and will never stop pursuing you.