Does God Understand My Pain? | Bible Verses for Grief

When you experience the pain and grief of losing a loved one, you may wonder if God knows what you are going through. You may feel like God has abandoned you and left you to sit in the weight of your sadness. But reading Bible verses for grief reminds us that Jesus knows our pain and wants to walk through it with us. 

Jesus Experienced Grief and Loss

The story of Lazarus’ resurrection is one of the most powerful examples of Jesus experiencing grief as a man and demonstrating His power as God. After His friend Lazarus died, Jesus journeyed to Bethany to comfort Lazarus’ sisters, Martha and Mary. Their grief and tears caused Jesus to groan in His spirit (John 11:33). 

When they brought Jesus to Lazarus’ tomb, Jesus was overcome with grief. John 11:35, one of many Bible verses about grief, records His reaction: “Jesus wept.” 

This short verse demonstrates Jesus’ humanity and the truth that He felt our emotions. But since Jesus was also God, He knew the situation’s outcome. In John 11:11, He told His disciples, “Our friend Lazarus sleeps, but I go that I may wake him up.” Why did Jesus weep if He knew He would raise Lazarus from the dead?

He wept for some of the same reasons we do when we lose a loved one. Everything we thought we knew to be real has suddenly changed. The one we loved was here to touch, love, and care for, but that has changed. Our other family members and friends also feel immense pain, sadness, and grief. We beg for this to be a nightmare and pray that someone wakes us. 

Jesus Sends Others to Comfort Us in Our Grief

When I lost my son, I felt like I was lost. I begged and pleaded with God for this not to be real. I lay in my bed and covered my head, wanting the ache to stop. The longing was unquenchable.  

And then, one day, I looked my mom in the eyes, and her grief-stricken face was pale and hollow looking. Her darkened eyes and never-ending tears communicated her deep understanding of my pain and intimate love for me. She wanted to do something, anything to console me. But there was no consolation to be had at that time. 

She tried to take on my pain herself, and she was, in so many ways, doing so. Her gentleness, strength, and love for me carried me through the grief. Her compassionate care allowed her to be the hands and feet of Jesus. 

I don’t know for sure, but I think Jesus’ empathetic heart for Mary and Martha moved Him to tears. He understood the immensity of their pain and knew their loss. John 11:5 tells us that He loved Martha, Mary, and Lazarus. His heart was broken as he watched them grieve, much like my own mom. Losing someone to death feels so very permanent, and it feels like so much more than we can handle.

If God Is Good, Why Do Bad Things Happen?

When facing the grief that comes with losing a loved one, despair can quickly move into our hearts. Many people facing grief wonder why a good God would allow bad things to happen to those whom He loves. Although it is normal to struggle with this question, we must be careful not to let the enemy whisper lies into our hearts. He can whisper lies like…

  • God doesn’t love me.
  • God doesn’t care for me.
  • God is far away from me. 

These lies can isolate us and cause us to doubt God’s goodness. God didn’t intend for this world to be filled with illness, trauma, or death. He didn’t intend for it to be filled with grief and anguish. If we study Bible verses for grief and suffering, we find that these things are rooted in sin.


Sin Is the Root of All Suffering and Evil

“Then the Lord God said, ‘Behold, the man has become like one of Us, to know good and evil.’”—Genesis 3:22a

The serpent’s deception and Adam and Eve’s disobedience brought the curse of sin on all humanity. He prompted Eve to doubt God’s command and His character, and she listened to the lies.

In John 10:10, Jesus warns, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” Satan will try to use your grief and suffering to put distance between you and God. He tried with me, and I hate to admit it, but he occasionally took my burden and used it for his purposes. I believed the lies he told me, and I turned my back on God for a time. As Jesus would have it, that’s not where the story ends. 

God helped me see the lies I was captive to. He showed me how the enemy had tried to cripple me with the lie that there was no hope. Graciously, God reminded me where my hope comes from. He guided me through my grief and forgave me of my sin in the depths of my despair. He breathed new life into me.  

8 Bible Verses for Grief

The Bible is filled with stories of hope and healing, like the resurrection of Lazarus. Bible verses for grief give us hope that although this world is broken and full of sin, it will not be that way forever.  

  • “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”—Matthew 5:4
  • “And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.”—Revelation 21:4
  • “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”—Psalm 147:3
  • “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit.”—Psalm 34:18
  • “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”—Matthew 11:28-30
  • “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”—Romans 8:18
  • “My flesh and my heart fail; but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”—Psalm 73:26
  • “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”—John 14:27 

Grieving Is a Process

I wish I could tell you that healing from grief is fast and easy, but that’s rarely the case. But I want you to know that Jesus carries you through your pain and suffering. He wants you to turn from the enemy’s lies and come to him. We must bring our heavy burdens of grief, sorrow, and sadness to Jesus and cling to Him for peace and comfort. John 10:10 says, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” True hope lies only in Jesus Christ. Reading Bible verses about grief can remind us of that hope.

Grieving is a process, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Abundant Life’s GriefShare ministry is a caring support group for people who have experienced the loss of a spouse, child, family member, or friend. Join a group and find hope, healing, and connection.